Avoid discards are excruciating & can make you absolutely spiral, wondering what you could have done differently…how you could have been “better”. The truth is, many people with avoidant attachment styles discard people they admire. These avoidant partners are often, on some level, jealous of you. You are a constant reminder of their stunted emotional evolution. You old a mirror. Sometimes, running away is just easier than facing their own demons.

🤨 Do antagonistic avoidants know they are hurting you? Do avoidants know they’re being cruel? Well, let’s talk about it. You probably don’t want to believe that avoidants are “bad people”, so you’re searching for a “why” to avoid “what is”. This is an explanation, not an excuse. In this video, I explain how many avoidants explain & justify their own behaviors. #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant