If calming yourself down actually worked, you wouldn’t still be hurting. Regulation isn’t healing when it’s used to avoid what needs to be processed. It’s just pushing the balloon under water. Regulation calms the nervous system. Processing changes it. There’s a middle path: knowing when to regulate and when to listen — without shaming either. If your pain keeps coming back louder and later, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong. It’s because it hasn’t been heard yet. #healingafterheartbreak #n